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        In My Time of (Symbolic) Dying:
           Doing the Work of Letting Go

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• Allow yourself to feel the feelings.  The Anger.  The Sorrow.   And whatever else comes.

 

• Bargaining (a la Kubler-Ross) is another name for Storytelling.  Some of this you’ll need to do alone in your head, but also wise to do this on paper and aloud with others.

                                       Can you tell a quest-like story, finding the gift hidden in this great loss?

• Express the losses or wounds creatively.     Music.     Art.     Journaling.     Movement.

                                                                                   Embody the feelings!

• Tell your story to others and find support in similar stories already told: books, movies, myths – whatever resonates. 

                                                                            Know that you are not alone.

• Spend time alone in nature – alone, though with a circle of people to whom you return.  
  • Fully express your feelings – shouting, singing, dancing, crying.  Self-expression creates

inner movement

• Ask the natural world to hold you and to offer an honest mirror. 

• Is there Guilt or Remorse about a relational wound that’s part of this evolving storyline? 
  • If so, do a Death Lodge ceremony in nature to help complete old relationships – helping to heal old wounds that might encumber the rebirth to come.  (See The Final Crossing: Learning to Die in Order to Live to learn more about the Death Lodge).

 

• Don’t get caught in the trap of Shame.  Don’t isolate.  This is how real Depression kicks in.

 
                                                                                             Ask for help!
 

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